What to Bring to Your Estate Planning Meeting

Scrambling for papers the night before a meeting is no fun. A simple checklist can turn that stress into confidence and help your first session move faster. At Trusts and Estates Law Group (of North Carolina), we aim to honor your life, work, and giving, and that starts with a clear picture of you and your goals.

Preparing for your estate planning meeting will make the conversation smoother. With the right information in hand, we can focus on what matters to you, not chasing down account details. This guide walks through what to bring and what to think about, so your plan fits your needs and values.

Why Preparation Matters

Coming in organized helps you make choices about your assets and the people you care about. It also saves time by avoiding guesswork on titling, beneficiaries, and ownership. A little prep sets the stage for a plan that works in real life.

Clear information also reduces the risk of gaps, like missing a retirement account or an out-of-state deed. With a full picture, we can align your documents with how your property is titled and who you want to benefit.

You will leave with the next steps that feel manageable. This peace of mind is worth the effort up front.

Essential Documents and Information

Bring what you have, even if the stack is not perfect. Recent statements and a simple inventory are more helpful than waiting for every record.

Family Information

Share full legal names, nicknames, dates of birth, and contact information for those who will appear in your plan.

• Names and contact details for your spouse or partner, children, and other beneficiaries.
• Information on former spouses or partners, if relevant.
• Notes on family dynamics or circumstances that could affect planning.

If other relatives or trusted friends will serve in roles, such as executor or agent, bring their details, too.

Financial Information

Bring recent statements for checking, savings, brokerage, and any other non-retirement accounts. We look at how each account is titled, the institution, and the approximate value.

Please flag ownership type, such as sole, joint, or tenants in common. Titling can control where assets go, even if your will says something different.

Retirement Savings Information

Gather a list of statements for 401(k)s, 403(b)s, 457s, IRAs, Roth IRAs, TSPs, pensions, and inherited accounts. Include the institution and any beneficiary designations on file.

Beneficiary designations on retirement accounts usually pass outside probate. Knowing these choices helps us line up your documents with those designations.

Life Insurance Information

Provide details for all policies, such as term, whole, variable universal life, or group coverage. Include the owner, the carrier, and current beneficiary choices.

Bring the death benefit amount for each policy. That number helps us plan for liquidity needs and gifts to family or charity.

Real Property Information

List each property with address, ownership type, estimated value, and any mortgage. Include your home, rental or vacation homes, and property tied to a business or investment.

In North Carolina, bringing copies of deeds is helpful, especially for property held in a trust or an LLC. If you own property in another state, those deeds help, too.

Tangible Personal Property

Note valuable items like antiques, collectibles, vehicles, jewelry, and art. If you have appraisals, bring them; otherwise, a short list works.

For taxes, we look at the likely sale value, not what it costs to replace the item. A simple memo can direct who gets sentimental items.

Inheritance Information

Share any inheritance you have received or expect to receive. Include interests in a trust created by someone else. Future interests can affect tax planning and how much to place in your own trust.

Business Information

Provide details on any business interests, such as an LLC, corporation, or partnership. Include the state of formation and copies of operating or buy-sell agreements if you have them. Those terms can control who can inherit your interest and at what price.

Existing Estate Planning Documents

Bring copies of any will, trust, power of attorney, and healthcare directive. We can often refresh a good document instead of starting from scratch. Seeing what you previously signed helps us confirm what still works and what needs an update under current North Carolina law.

Prenuptial or Marital Agreements

If you have a prenup or other marital contract, bring a copy. Those terms can shape how property passes and what your spouse must receive. With the paperwork in hand, we can turn to the choices you will make about people, roles, and gifts.

Key Considerations and Decisions

Think through the people you trust and the gifts you want to make. A short list on paper makes the meeting feel simple and focused.

• Who should receive your property, and if anyone is intentionally left out
• Any gifts to charities, universities, or community groups
• Your first choice for executor and, if needed, trustee
• Guardian choices for minor children
• Whether you want a living will and a healthcare power of attorney
• Who should handle finances under a durable power of attorney
• Any wishes for funeral plans, organ donation, or donation to science
• Backups for the executor, trustee, guardian, and agents
• Any special needs among beneficiaries that require extra planning
• Your goals for how and when loved ones receive gifts

If you bring draft names and contact info, we can talk through the pros and cons of each role.

Additional Information to Consider

Jot down questions that are on your mind. No question is too small, and it helps us focus on what you care about most.

• A written list of questions about the process or your documents.
• Your life goals, such as target retirement age, expected family changes, or property plans.
• Contacts for your CPA, insurance agent, financial advisor, and other professionals.
• Health contacts for your primary care doctor and any professionals.
• A list of digital accounts and how you store passwords, or the name of your password manager.

If you prefer, we can discuss naming a trusted person to manage digital assets under your will or power of attorney. North Carolina recognizes planning for online accounts, and clear instructions help your family later.

Once you gather these items, the rest of the process is much easier to handle.

Prepare with Confidence: Contact Trusts and Estates Law Group (of North Carolina)

Starting your estate plan or updating an existing one is easier with the right guidance. At Trusts and Estates Law Group, we help North Carolina families organize key documents, define goals, and put everything in order for lasting peace of mind.

Call 919-782-3500 or visit our Contact Us page to schedule a meeting. We’re here to answer your questions, explain your options in plain language, and help you build a plan that truly fits your family’s needs.